Guys, pick a number, one or two.
- You’re the sort of fella that can just get up and chat away in front of a crowd of people like it’s a fun, everyday experience? It feels great, you’re confident, and you can nail these situations?
- Or does the thought of talking in front of large numbers make you physically sick? And you would rather be anywhere else right now?
As much as it’s nice to say, “Hey, I’m the first one, I was born to talk!”, most guys struggle with it because it’s bloody hard. Nothing to feel bad about here. It’s just hard.
And it doesn’t feel good to actually admit you’re number two. Of course it doesn’t. You want to be the guy that acts all blasé and gives the impression this happens everyday, as per, while knocking out an amazing speech that has everyone in stitches.
I have some bad, but mainly good, news.
Most of us, being honest, come in choosing the second option. It’s how our minds work. We were out the day before doing something we loved, having a beer, enjoying life. That’s our fun place. It’s safe. We want to keep doing this forever as long as it doesn’t get boring.
Just to think about getting up in front of everyone and facing embarrassment is not a safe place. It’s a downright horrible place. And it will haunt you all the way up to the wedding day.
But you’ve been tasked with this speech and, I’m telling you now, we’re going to get through it together. No, I won’t be stood alongside you, but I’ll give you the tools to deliver an awesome speech and also give you the confidence to realise you can do this, and nothing bad is going to happen!
We are going to take the least confident public speaker out there, and arm them with their own material. Yes, everything I use comes from you. Your stories, your memories.
Scared? Don’t be. You’re better at this than you think.
All I’m going to do is take the funniest bits (and I read them first so I already have a pretty good idea), and turn them into something that will have your audience wanting to hear more and more. And when you get up there, barely able to talk, but start to realise that “Hang on, they love this!”, you’ll be wishing you could stand up there for an hour!
And it goes a little like this:
- You watch the other speeches; this makes you more nervous because they’re better than you expected.
- It’s your turn, your throat goes dry even though you just necked another drink.
- You fumble through a few thank you’s, it’s intense, you want to go to the bar, home or have a nice weekend in N. Korea. Anywhere would be better right now.
- You let the audience know you’re going to finish the speech with a poem (as far as they’re aware, you wrote it, do not tell them any different).
- Nice, slowly and clearly, start to read the poem from the paper you’ve printed out at home.
- As hard as it is, look around the audience while they’re laughing. You will have time between verses, and it will intensify your enjoyment when you see their reaction.
- Nail it home! They will be in stitches and you will be waiting for them to fall silent before you can continue with each verse. Enjoy this moment.
You will be coming up to the last verse and saying congratulations to the happy couple before you know it. Not only that, but you’ll wish you had more verses to read out because you feel bloody great right now!
Don’t hold back guys, get in touch, let’s get you the confidence to deal with a large audience and have everyone eating out the palm of your hand. In less than ten minutes you will have gone from downright scared, to being the bloke that can take on anything. And the funny thing is, it’s your audience that will take you to that place.